I remember those days when I was in primary school. My group of friends included more than twenty people. We see each other daily in school, and go our own ways during school breaks. Of more than twenty friends, some remain my good friends until today. I am proud to say that at the age of 43, I have good friends whom I have known for nearly 40 years!
Friendship is not something one seeks. It occurs when we meet people and find common activities to engage in, and topics to talk about. Friends can be classmates, and the sons and daughters of our parent’s friends. Friends can also be the people we work with, the people we work for, and even the occasional stranger we meet such us during travel or when we hang out in bars or coffee shops.
As the years went by, I learned to differentiate friends from acquaintances. More than a decade ago, my friend, Judy, said: We don’t need a lot of friends. We only need true friends, even if it’s just one person.
I went on to live my life, and experienced being abandoned by people I knew and trusted. I began to see some so-called friends in their many forms and manifestations. Some were around because they like my company and the good times we shared. However, take away the good times, they’re gone. Some were around because they needed me. Without that need, they’re gone. Some were around because I listen when they vent and provide counsel when asked. Without their problems, they’re gone. Through it all, some remained by my side.
Today, this small group of people is either my good friends, or family. I trust that my good friends will be there to listen to me, and in their capacity, help me when I need their help. In my own ways, I would do the same.
There is a select group of people who belong to my inner circle. These people are family to me, as I am to them. We would be there for each other, and if need be, go out of our ways to help each other. These are the people who truly matter. Their family is my family, as mine is theirs.
True friends care deeply. True friends listen and understand. True friends help. True friends are loyal to each other and will be there for each other, even during the bad times.
Do you know who your true friends are? Today, I proudly say I do.